Saturday, 15 November 2025

Movember ~ Men & Suicide

We are halfway through Movember already, and I've been meaning to post about men's mental health for weeks.

Men & the Mental Health Crisis

  • Every year, thousands of men take their own lives
  • Suicide is now the leading cause of death among men under 50
  • 75% of deaths by suicide are men. 

Men in the UK are in deep psychological distress, and mental health is not just a matter of brain chemistry. 

Behind these statistics, we find that the mental health crisis is linked to economic changes.


Beyond individual explanations

Men in England’s poorest areas are four times more likely to die from preventable causes (including suicide) than men in the wealthiest areas.

The connection between class and suicide is stark.

When suicide doesn't affect all of society equally, then we know it is a social problem -- middle-aged men in areas of high deprivation are at most risk.

The highest male suicide rates are found in ex-industrial regions — the North East, South Wales, and parts of Scotland. These are the same places where deindustrialisation hit hardest. 


 The Samaritans have a lot to say on this. It is definitely worth exploring their website.


There is a link between poverty and suicide (it's not the full explanation).

When people lose stable work, financial security, and purpose, this can help push them into a dark place. Things are even worse when public services are stripped away. 


The long shadow of deindustrialisation

From the late 1970s onwards, Britain’s industrial base was dismantled. Coal mines, shipyards, steelworks, car plants — workplaces that had employed generations of men — were closed. 

Alongside the jobs went union power, local solidarity, and male identity rooted in collective labour.

In their place came low-paid, insecure service work or unemployment. Communities once built around shared labour now suffer from isolation, poverty, and alienation.


There is a link between suicide & the breakdown of a sense of community.


* Mainstream debate often talks about suicide as an individual medical issue — a failure of personal coping, or a chemical imbalance in the brain. 

* But I want to talk about how social conditions are related to the pattern of suicide deaths.

* Suicide is not JUST connected to being in-and-out of low-paid work, but also to having a sense of belonging and a sense of community.

Class, inequality, and despair

Working-class men have been stripped of social worth in an economy that no longer values their labour and offers little in return. Insecure work, low pay, poor housing, debt, addiction, and declining public services are the features in many people's lives.

Community centres, advice bureaus, and support groups — the small infrastructures of solidarity — were closed or privatized. For men who already struggle to express vulnerability, this withdrawal of collective care is devastating.

Working men's clubs are mostly gone, and people can't afford to go for a pint like they used to. Many pubs have closed along with many local services and shops, so there might not even be that sense of a local community anymore.

Austerity and the dismantling of support

Austerity has made the crisis worse. 

Between 2010 and 2020, local authority funding for mental health and youth services was cut by over 40% in some areas. NHS mental health waiting lists are now so long that many never receive treatment.

With hard times and little support from a community, it is no surprise that suicide rates rose sharply after 2010. When the state retreats, despair fills the vacuum.

Masculinity and emotional isolation

Both men and women experience the difficult economic situation, but the suicide rate is much higher for men. Why is that?

There has to be either a biological or a gender-related reason why more men commit suicide than women. 

Social deprivation: 

  • Women experience higher rates of poverty and persistent low income compared to men, driven by factors like the gender pay gap, women's roles in family and caregiving, and the design of social security systems. 
  • Single mothers, in particular, face a very high risk of poverty, with nearly half of single-parent households living in poverty.

Poverty obviously makes daily life more difficult and it is the trigger. But what explains the Male v Female difference when it comes to suicide? 

Gender is a social construction shaped by material conditions

Capitalism has long rewarded men for emotional detachment and competitiveness, whereas women tend to have more of a social support network and a deep sense of responsibility to look after their children. 

The “real man” is expected to be productive, stoic, and self-reliant. These traits suited a world of heavy industry and the nuclear family in which a mother and dependents relied on the main breadwinner.

But in today’s fragmented, precarious economy, those same traits of emotional detachment and competitiveness have become a trap.

Many men are left without emotional literacy or support networks. They turn inward, or to alcohol and drugs, rather than seeking help. This helps explain why men are far more likely to die by suicide — men often act more violently and seek help less.

But rather than seeing this as a matter of “toxic masculinity” alone why not ask: 

Who benefits from men being isolated?
Men taught to suppress vulnerability are less likely to resist exploitation, unionise, or demand care.

The answer: capitalism benefits. 


The Individualisation of Pain

Under neoliberal ideology, problems become personal responsibility. 

Mental health campaigns often frame depression as something to “manage” through mindfulness, exercise, or apps — never as a symptom of systemic alienation

If you are isolated or lonely, YOU need to pull your socks up and get out more. The onus is on the individual rather than on society, which causes the problem.

Meanwhile, the material causes of distress — job insecurity, rent exploitation, long working hours, social atomisation — remain untouched. Men are told to “open up” but not given anyone to open up to, nor the social time or security to do it.

Collective Response

We should reject the idea that suicide is merely a private tragedy. It has far-reaching repercussions.

It’s a class and social issue that reveals how our current economy corrodes well-being.

The solution isn't fast or easy. We need to:

  • Rebuilding stable, meaningful employment and strong trade unions.

  • Restoring funding for community mental health and youth services.

  • Creating public spaces where men can connect outside the pressures of work and competition.

  • Challenging the concept of masculinity that equates worth with productivity.

  • Ensuring that care — psychological, emotional, and social — is a collective right, not a market commodity.


The tragedy of male suicide cannot be solved with slogans about “talking more.” 

Men are dying because an economic system that once gave them identity now gives them precarity, and because the public safety nets that once caught them have been torn apart.

The cure lies not just in therapy but in solidarity — rebuilding communities, restoring public care, and transforming the economic order that produces such widespread despair.

Until we bring about change, many men will continue to face the same silent, brutal choice: between enduring impossible pressures or ending their pain. In a society organised around profit instead of people, that is not a personal failure — it is a political one. 




Monday, 10 November 2025

Where Do You Stand on Trans Rights?

TLDR: I support trans people's rights. 

This I try to be a decent human and treat trans people the same way that I treat everyone else!

  • This means respecting their dignity.
  • This means the golden rule -- treating other people as I would hope to be treated.
  • This means respecting people's rights to live and dress how they please.
  • This means respecting the way a person identifies, calling them by their preferred name and pronouns. 
  • This means not ridiculing people or deliberately making them uncomfortable.
I recognise that trans women and trans men are vulnerable people and targets for hate, bullying, and violence. These are not acceptable, no matter who the target is.

Every trans person has parents and neighbours. 
I think about how I would worry about them and want to protect them if I were their mother or their neighbour. 
If I were their work colleague, I'd like them to feel I am on their side.

I'm also human and deeply flawed, so I hope people will be forgiven when I get their name or pronouns wrong. It isn't out of anti-trans malice - I do it to everyone!

How can anyone think anything else?

I'd sum it up: 

Be a decent human being and treat other people respectfully.

It's not difficult or complicated. 

Anything else is not acceptable.

Throughout my life, I've had many trans friends. I realise and they realise, some issues are tricky and there aren't clear-cut, obvious answers to every question. 

There are some things open to reasonable debate, and others I don't know much about.

EXAMPLE: 

I don't know when trans people should be welcomed or excluded from specific sporting events. And I don't need to have an opinion on this because I believe it should be decided by experts, perhaps the people who run an event and scientists. 

The one thing I am sure about when it comes to trans people in sporting events -- it should not be the job of politicians to decide the rules.

TRANS RIGHTS

Rights aren't like cherry pie, so that if someone gets more, another person gets less. Trans and non-binary people are a tiny minority of the population -- they only need a tiny bit of pie.

I'm all for women, children, and trans people all having rights. 

I'm very interested in the relationship between rights and responsibilities.

Suppose we stopped talking about rights and instead discussed our responsibilities to other people and to future generations, then what would this mean for trans people?

I think we (all of us as a society) have responsibilities to look after our neighbours so they don't face poverty, hunger, violence, or discrimination. Society has the responsibility to look after our most vulnerable members, and trans people are those vulnerable people.



This is the website of the Fledgling Trans Rights Caucus:

https://transliberationgroup.org.uk/

Their demands are simple. 


A PARTY FOR EVERYONE

LEGALISE TRANS EXISTENCE

This includes:
  • Amend the Equality Act 2010 to undo the damage caused by the Supreme Court ruling of 16th April 2025 by making it clear “sex” refers to a person's current lived sex and adding gender identity as a protected characteristic. Ensure that “gender-critical” beliefs cannot be treated as protected beliefs.

REFORM THE BROKEN SYSTEM

This includes:

  • Institute a complete ban on all types of conversion therapy, including trans conversion therapy. Support for people questioning their gender should be affirmative of their desires while giving space for people to explore their feelings.
  • Enshrine in UK Law the right to privacy over your assigned gender at birth and trans status, and oppose all attempts to leave the ECHR, which guarantees the right to respect for your private and family life, including confidentiality around your assigned gender at birth under Article 8.

HEALTHCARE THAT WORKS

WHAT I THINK!

In my opinion, most of their demands are about basic things any decent person should support and that should be really easy to implement. 

Changing the NHS -- funding it to meet all of our needs, that isn't going to be a quick or easy fix. And I'm mindful that healthcare services are terribly underfunded at the moment. I think to improve healthcare for trans people, we need to focus on improving healthcare for everyone. 

Demand massive investment across many or all healthcare services.







Sunday, 9 November 2025

What Women Want -- From Politicians

Women exist in families and communities. 

They care for people and are often in low-paid jobs. 

A better world for women, where they are well paid, not stressed out, and feel safe, will be a better world for everyone.

A safer world for my daughter is a safer for everyone. 

Women as victims of low pay, poverty, and violence are not just suffering individuals; it has knock-on implications for society, especially through the way these things affect their children.


MOTHERHOOD:


I think a parent should be able to choose to stay at home with their pre-school children or be able to go to work, and that public policy should enable this choice, through:

  • highly subsidized childcare places for parents who want to work (like in Sweden where parents pay a small contribution towards the costs),
  • the taxation and benefits system should enable parents to stay home and raise children (payments for housework is a concept to consider), 
  • a lower cost of living would make it far easier for parents (and grandparents) to reduce their working hours and afford to spend time with their children. A lower cost of living might be achieved through various policies, such as: (1) building low-rent council houses, (2) public-owned utilities to reduce these costs, and (3) a digital strategy to give all households access to the internet.

WORK:


Equal pay, of course!

Equal opportunities for all based on ability, of course.

Increased flexible work and part-time working, job sharing, and career breaks - of course! We exist in a 24/7 society, so work should offer flexible hours (note: most work—obviously not all work).

Better opportunities to retrain and re-enter education—of course.


Violence Against Women & Girls


A better, safer world for women is a better, safer world for everyone.

A few key areas of concern are:

  • Violence at the hands of a romantic/domestic partner ~ women are twice as likely to be the victim. But more than 90% are women who are at high risk of serious assault/ murder/ rape.
  • Thousands of people are “spiked” each year - ie, drugged - and 3 out of 4 of these victims are women.
  • Harassment in all its forms seems to be greater for women, but it is also significant for men. 

Some Factors in Violence Against Women

* Poverty, Low pay, and Unemployment are not an excuse!

There is substantial evidence that poverty, low pay, and unemployment play a significant role in increasing the risk of violence against women and girls (VAWG). They do not cause the violence on their own (that is always the perpetrator’s responsibility), but they help create a context in which VAWG is more likely, and they make it much harder for survivors to escape or recover from abuse.

* Drugs and Alcohol Misuse are not an excuse!

Alcohol and drug misuse are strongly linked to harassment, particularly sexual harassment, street harassment, and workplace misconduct. But the relationship is correlational and contextual — alcohol increases risk and frequency, but it’s not the root cause. Should we ban these things? I’m NOT generally in favour of prohibition, which often doesn’t work and encourages enterprising criminal gangs to set up shop. I’d prefer to look at causes and practical solutions to alcohol and drug misuse.




One thing that would make a big difference in the lives of women, young people (and everyone) is low-cost, safe, efficient, and frequent 24-hour public transport

This deserves a separate post all of its own one day. But good luck if you are looking to get across the Potteries area after 6 pm. You might be able to get a bus, but you might not have a connection. 



My Policies 

If I were the Prime Minister of one of the top 10 wealthiest countries in the world, these would be some of the top things I’d want to implement that I think will have a significant impact on women’s lives:

  1. Lifting families out of poverty, primarily through tackling the cost-of-living crisis and the connected housing crisis, and through house building and job creation.
  2. Heavily subsidised child care would be available year-round, rather than the ridiculous policies we have seen that only subsidised a few hours of childcare during school terms.
  3. A greatly increased public transport system (this might involve taxis and minibusses at times and places of low demand) so that most people could get to work by bus in a reasonable amount of time and at a reasonable cost. Note: Some people cannot travel to and from work, even in urban areas, due to inadequate bus services.
  4. Community support: since the Tory policy of austerity took hold, “community” has declined. Libraries, community centres, and community services such as Sure Start have closed down. These provided low-cost resources and places for people to go out and meet other local people. The dire consequences are rippling out, feeding crime, antisocial behaviour, and a sense of hopelessness. These things affect us all. I want to build communities, making sure every local area has something local.




There are other issues that are important, but I'm not sure what an MP  should do about them.

There are issues around menopause and perimenopause, which need a lot more research as well as public information. Women's suicide rates peak at the same time as the average age for menopause, indicating that this change in hormone levels is a significant issue for women. 


When it comes to toilets, we need a lot more of them. Public toilets have been closed down across the country; a civilised country funds public toilets. Wee need them!


Are there any women-only issues that only benefit women that should be on my priority list? Perhaps there are some—please leave a message and let me know.





Monday, 3 November 2025

Loyalty to my friends and family and country is not the same as to A SUPERMARKET

Strangely enough, I don't get points and free stuff for family loyalty. 

I am grateful for the new tradition of £0.08p veggies at Christmas.

But I see no reason for Supermarkets to expect loyalty. 

Loyalty Cards

Are you kidding me! 

Years ago, the TESCO points used to add up to something substantial, but they've cut back on the rewards, so it's hardly worth bothering with.

Loyalty Cards: They are just annoying cards. Keep loyal customers by keeping them happy. Here are some tips for free:

  • Do NOT rearrange the stock. No one likes it! When we know where to find stuff, we want it to always be in the same place.
  • Keep the prices low and fair. Don't expect me to buy three lots of something to get a better price. Just cut the price of buying one. I'll buy more if I want more.
  • Thirdly, for bonus points, carry an interesting variety of locally sourced stock with big, bold labels reading 'Made in Britain'. Or grown in Staffordshire. 

Above all...

Something that really winds me up — 

The dual pricing system


It’s everywhere. You know: £1.75 with Clubcard, £2.50 without

Tesco, Sainsbury’s, even Co-op’s started doing it. 

So now, the price you pay for your food depends on whether you’ve signed up to their loyalty scheme and remembered to bring your card or scan your phone.

Loyalty? I call it disloyalty pricing — because it punishes the people who haven’t signed up and those who are TOO YOUNG to sign up. Or the homeless. Or those who forgot to bring their card/phone.


Let’s be honest: it’s not really about loyalty, is it?

It’s about data

They want to know what you buy, when you buy it, and how much you’re willing to spend. Every pint of milk and pack of biscuits gets recorded somewhere in a database, so they can target you with “personalised offers”. Keep them. I've told you what I want (see bullet points above).


The Competition and Markets Authority looked into this stuff. 

Their research found that about 70% of shoppers think the discounts are useful, who doesn't like a discount?

Almost half — 43% — think it’s unfair that members get lower prices than everyone else.

Count me in that 43%.

If you’re not a member, you’re basically being charged a penalty price for daring to mind your own business and not hand over your data.

Or, you’re being charged a penalty price because you forgot to scan your phone/card.

And it’s not like you can shrug and say, “I’ll just pay the normal price.” That “normal price” isn’t normal anymore — it’s inflated to make the “loyalty price” look good.

See how the Tesco receipt says the bill was £120, but they gave you £20 discount. No, the shopping was £100, but they are making some people pay that much more.

For a while, I was shopping at ASDA to escape this hell. But they have started a similar scheme now, and coincidentally, their prices have gone up dramatically so that it's cheaper for me to go back to Tesco. But they are all much of a muchness, and Sainsbury's has some amazingly nice veggie food that suits my mean budget.

Sadlly, two-tier pricing is normal these days.

No matter that it punishes those under 18 or various sections of poor people who might not have signed up for the card.


Profits are up. Yet we’re supposed to feel grateful that we can get a cheaper price if we play the game right.

I feel like I'm the one being played by those corporate giants.

I don’t want to join a scheme to buy food at a fair price.

I don’t want to download an app, or carry a plastic card, or scan a QR code to avoid paying extra for pasta.

I just want a supermarket where the price on the shelf is the price for everyone.

Is that too much to ask?

We used to call that fairness.

Have you ever thought that if loyalty were about rewarding regular customers, the savings would be automatic every time we went into the shop? No need for a card. Or, sure, give us vouchers for money off clothes to tempt us to spend money in that section. 

But two prices for groceries just seems wrong to me. So wrong it just might be immoral.


Sign up, hand over your details, and we’ll stop overcharging you.

That’s not loyalty.
That’s blackmail by barcode.


WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

If I were in charge, I would consider banning two-tier pricing for regular groceries in regular supermarkets.

What do you think?






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